Friendship: A Special Relationship – By Valentina Coppola


 

Everybody needs somebody to share experiences, situations, and moments with. Someone who’ll be there when everything goes wrong. Everybody needs a friend.

What is true friendship? Why do two people decide to be friends? Well, it’s not easy to find a real friend and it isn’t easy to be a good friend either. If you find a real friend, you’re really lucky.

Friendship is a special kind of love: If you have a friend, your life is definitely better. You feel stonger because you know your friend is always by your side. It’s a precious blessing for everyone. It’s a lovely feeling, a unique blend of affection, loyalty, respect, trust, love and loads of fun. Without friends, no one would choose to live. It’s one of the most important things to have in life.

A real friend is like a brother or a sister…a part of your family. You don’t have to weigh your thoughts and measure words before sharing them with your friend.  You both give support to each other and listen to what the other person needs to say. You’ll find solutions to problems together; you’ll laugh and cry together, sharing all kinds of experience. Dedicate more time to your friend, you’ll feel good and it will be the same for him/her.

Everybody has a different definition of friendship, but everybody agrees that when it’s genuine, it’s an unconditional love. Something that joins people in an eternal and lovely bond.

Be honest with your friend. If you don’t like something, don’t hesitate to tell him/her. Don’t be selfish or incorrect with your friend for he/she doesn’t deserve it. Your friend trusts in you and you trust in him. If someone betrays your trust, it’s not true friendship. Maybe that so called “friend”  just wanted to take advantage of you. You’ll be disappointed but don’t close your heart. Everybody is different. It’s better to have just few good friends than a lots of fake ones.

A real friend is not perfect: he can say or do something wrong, but if your relationship is strong and close, everything  will go well.

Friendship has no limits: even if your friend is far from you, your friendship doesn’t finish. The few moments that you’ll spend together will be the best and the deepest.

Psychologists say “If a friendship lasts longer than 7 years, it will last a lifetime.” Well, it’s true! you have a special connection with a friend who grows up with you. For example, people usually meet thier best friends in school and they stay friends for a lifetime.

Many poets and writers wrote about friendship. One of the most famous is Khalil Gibran, who said,

“Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside”.

And the great Cicerone wrote an entire philosophical dialogue, called “De Amicitia”, dedicated to his friend Laelius. An abstract of the dialogue says:

“6. Now friendship may be thus defined: a complete accord on all subjects human and divine, joined with mutual goodwill and affection. And with the exception of wisdom, I am inclined to think nothing better than this has been given to man by the immortal gods. There are people who give the palm to riches or to good health, or to power and office, many even to sensual pleasures. This last is the ideal of brute beasts; and of the others we may say that they are frail and uncertain, and depend less on our own prudence than on the caprice of fortune. Then there are those who find the “chief good” in virtue. Well, that is a noble doctrine. But the very virtue they talk of is the parent and preserver of friendship, and without it friendship cannot possibly exist.”

A real friendship lasts forever. Yes, forever. Even if there will be ups and down. Don’t worry, every relationship has its problems. Friendship is like a plant, if you don’t irrigate and cherish it, it won’t grow strongly. Can you imagine your life without your friends? It would be a sad and empty life. Friendship is definitely the best relationship in the world!

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