Reality in a Fairy Tale – By Najlaa Nezar

Somewhere over the rainbow lived a Princess locked in a faraway castle guarded by a beast ensuring that her imprisonment would last forever. Yes, true, my dear reader, this may look like the beginning to another fairy tale, but even in fairy tales where everything is possible and magical, there is an element of reality. If we look closely and analyse the fair princess who lives day in day out with what I would like to call “The Magic of Positive Attitude”, we will find that she deeply believes that there will come a day when her Prince Charming will come to rescue her. The beast in her story represents her negative attitude or can also be seen as a metaphor for society’s restrictions and life’s obstacles that, if she had fallen under that negativity, she would have remained locked up forever. She knows that the beast is so powerful and almost unbeatable yet she is certain about that one thing, “The Power of Positive Attitude and Belief”.

My inner voice keeps popping me this question: “How can you stay positive with all this insanity in the world around you?” If I pause for a moment, switch off my automatic pilot mode and dive deep to find my answer, I resurface with something that goes like this: “I am fully aware (keyword, ‘aware’) that I am not positive all the time.” However, I am constantly striving to be positive and also to become CONSCIENTIOUS of my choices, thoughts and reactions. We should all train ourselves to be consciously aware of our mindsets and mental attitudes.

Some people believe that positive people are dreamers who live with their heads in the clouds and are not firmly-grounded. In reality, positive people do not actually live like Pollyanna, lost in some fantasy world, detached from reality. They may have a Pollyanna-like attitude but they are not necessarily unrealistic. Positive attitude is the magic magnifying lens that makes people see reality from a different angle and perspective. Positive attitude is the wand that magically changes obstacles into opportunities.

In times of hardship, we need to question ourselves, “Where is the gift in this situation and what is the lesson to be learned?” Paulo Coelho wrote in his book ‘Manual of the Warrior of Light’:

‘(A) warrior of light often finds himself faced by the same problems and situations, and seeing these difficult situations return, he grows depressed, thinking that he is incapable of making any progress in life.

“I have been through all this before,” he says to his heart.

“Yes, you have been through all this before,” replies his heart “but you have never been beyond it.”

Then the warrior realizes that these repeated experiences have but one aim: to teach him what he does not want to learn.’

Living with a positive attitude keeps one’s mind well-balanced (the core and center of our lives) and after all isn’t it balance what we always seek in this unbalanced life which is full of negative situations and people who put a strain on you, trying to pull you down. It is true that we would do ourselves a tremendous favor by letting go of the people who poison our spirit and instead try to surround ourselves with people who make us hungry for life, touch our hearts and nourish our souls. A negative attitude is like a flat tire, you cannot get anywhere with it. Change it, set off and discover what lies over the rainbow.


Inspirational quotes:

• Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.
• A strong and positive attitude creates more miracles than any other thing, because life is 10% how we make it, and 90% how we take it.
• ‘When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind not with it.’ (Henry Ford)


TED Talk:

Getting stuck in the negatives (and how to get unstuck) | Alison Ledgerwood | TEDxUCDavis



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